National Coming Out Day

I can’t believe it.  I completely missed National Coming Out Day.  Not that I typically do much of anything to celebrate.  It’s not like I’d chop down a tree, eat a special meal, or dress in a silly costume – I’m not from Arkansas!  No, I usually think about how fortunate I am to live in a time and place where people can be open about their sexual identity.  And then have anonymous sex with as many men as possible.  What can I say?  I’m a romantic.


It was the day after National Coming Out Day that I read about President Joe Biden condemning anti-gay legislation in various states.  That’s how you make progress.  Then I read that Carl Nassib, the openly gay pro football player, said the most important part of coming out was finding that special somebody.  See?  We have something in common.  Last night, I met a dozen special someones – none that I could identify in a police lineup, but that’s probably for the best.  Anyway, Carl said, “I just wanted to be someone’s number one priority, and I couldn’t have that.  So that was the one thing where I was like, ‘Man, I really fucking want that.’  But I got that now, so it’s good.  Oh, I met an awesome guy.  He’s the best.”

Carl declined to elaborate on who he is dating, but he did reveal that he planned on coming out a year earlier.  Blame the delay on that pesky pandemic.  While he had some trepidation about telling his story, he said, “Everyone responded so well.  I was like, ‘Damn, these are good dudes!’”  Well, not everyone.  Jon Gruden, the head coach of the Las Vegas Raiders (the team Carl plays for), sent e-mails containing homophobic, transphobic, racist and misogynistic content between 2011-18 to various NFL colleagues.  While this was long before his tenure with the Raiders, he was obliged to resign over the revelation.  Consequently, Carl took a personal day.  “He just said he’s got a lot to process, there’s a lot that’s been going on the last few days, and of course we support that request,” said the team’s general manager.

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